Why is it never easy?

You have people that all want to do a thing but somehow none of them have free time that aligns long enough to do the thing. I mean you all want to do it, so why can’t we just say “It’s happening on this date at this time!” and then you do what you can to be there or you live with the FOMO.

But you can’t do that. Leaving people out of the thing they want to do is rude for the most part. It’s a quick way to have conspiracy theories spring up in your group. “These people are scheduling things so I can’t attend!” Don’t ask me how I know.

I run multiple instances of D&D with three separate groups and invariably every month I want to give it all up and go back to video games for the want of a useful group calendar. I have three groups exactly because I can only count on each group to manage about one game every month. So the more groups I have the more often I actually get to play. It’s maddening that I can’t just say D&D is on the second Saturday and that’s that. And i could, but I’m just not the kind of person who can handle the sad eyes or the cloudy email of the person who can’t make it that week, or that Tuesday nights are already booked up with family game night or something.

But I understand. It’s hard sometimes just for me and my wife to find time to be together and enjoy each other’s company. And we live together and everything. We have a cat! And to be honest Hermione (the cat) related activities work best. An honest alignment of our interests.

That connection with my wife is what makes it worth the effort. As much pain and suffering that’s caused by trying to put something in the calendar, its the chance to spend time with people that makes it worth it. I have had time in my life when I was very lonely, and I assure you that spending all that available time by yourself is less worthwhile then trying to cram some friends and acquaintances in to a room for a few hours of frivolity. So I challenge you dear reader to stretch your Outlook and fill in those dates. Like actual real exercise, the fun comes after the pain.